By Maia Pellegrini, LMSW, CSAT-Candidate
Workshop Facilitator, Rio Retreat
People who identify as sex addicts and partners of sex addicts are often pessimistic about salvaging a relationship after years of deceit, pretend, and folly. Staggered disclosures of infidelities, emotional pain, anger, and shame — as well as a lack of knowledge and skill to rebuild the relationship — result in hopelessness, despair, and perhaps apathy.
By John Parker, MS, LMFT, SATP, CSA
Trust is a funny thing; it disappears in an instant and yet takes what seems like an eternity to rebuild, especially after sexual betrayal. When sexual addiction walks in the room, dishonesty usually follows closely behind. It is rare to see one without the other. A betrayed partner will feel the pain of infidelity, and that pain is intensified by the lies and manipulation that go along with it. Complete lack of trust is the salt in an already excruciating wound.
Rebuilding trust can be a daunting task for both the addicted person and the partner. Usually a long, arduous process, it does not follow a nicely laid out path. So, what is a couple to do? Can a betrayed partner ever trust his or her addicted loved one again?
By Dr. Georgia Fourlas, LCSW, LISAC, CSAT, Clinical Director of Rio Retreat Center Workshops
Partners of sex addicts often find themselves feeling alone and isolated. First, the feelings of loneliness come when the addicted partner is acting out. Although the partner of the sex addict is not always able to identify what is wrong, they often sense the addict’s distance and are aware of a shift in the addict or in the relationship.
By Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D.(c), MFT, CST-S, CSAT-S, Senior Fellow at The Meadows
For decades, researchers have struggled to define the unconscious processes of irrational love paramount in myths and fairy tales. Lovers in these stories are portrayed as love struck, driven to tantrums or immature behavior, wholly bewitched by the spell of the beloved. The psychologically tormented, unstable duo is incapable of secure, mature love, rendering them unable to function until they are driven to insanity and, at times, even to death.
Dr. Georgia Fourlas, LCSW, LISAC, CSAT
Clinical Director of Rio Retreat Center Workshops at The Meadows
“Are my sexual behaviors really a problem?”
Some people clearly know the answer to that question, even if they refuse to admit it. Other people are not so sure.
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